Happy Valentine's Day!
I know that this holiday feels a little b.s. and gimmicky to many, and I get that. Overpaying for flowers and a dinner out isn't really the point though.
Our culture and our language may have diminished the scope of the word love down to "I'm lovin' it" over a hamburger, but you and I know better.
The Greeks had no less than 6 words for love:
Eros - sexual passion
Philia - deep friendship
Ludus - playful love
Agape - love for everyone
Pragma - longstanding love
Philautia - love of the self
I want to invite you to recognize and reclaim this Valentine's Day as a chance to give and receive at least one of these expressions of love. To help inspire you, today I'm offering a recipe for you to make your very own love potion under February’s Full 'Snow' Moon.
The Moon will be at its fullest on Wednesday the 16th at 8:57 AM PST. Any Full Moon ritual can be completed during the day-and-a-half period both before and after it reaches 100%, so don't be shy, you can do it tonight or any time this week!
Love Potion No.9
"Time for a love potion, a little sweet and spice Throw it all in a cauldron, mix it up real nice Fire in my eyes, stir counterclockwise" - Tara Benjamin & Rajat Singh
It's a happy coincidence that the card which volunteered as our anchor this Valentine's Day, the Nine of Pentacles, just so happens to align with the very famous song lyrics! The Nine of Pentacles is a welcomed card in any reading. This card also happens to be my personal anchor card. Whenever I am feeling out of sorts, ungraceful, insufficient, or over-reaching, I call upon this card for support. The Nine of Pentacles speaks of abundance, wisdom, patience, experience, and inner satisfaction. I liken her to Jasmine of Aladdin. Sure, she's got a pet tiger and an aviary, but it's no big deal. She has nice things because she knows how to care for them. She cannot be persuaded to abandon her inner compass for anything or anyone. Ruled by Earth, the Nine of Pentacles is both grounded and abundant. The falcon she lifts is prepared to seek for her whatever she may want, but at this moment, it has its blinders on. They both are content to enjoy the beauty of the day and the garden. While Valintine's Day may be commercially fraught with invitations that are designed to make you feel as though your 'relationship status' could be defined in a drop-down menu, the Nine of Pentacles is showing up to demonstrate that your relationship with yourself is the only status you can dictate. And you look so good in you.
You are going to need a jar with a lid for this exercise. It can be as big or as small as you like. Smaller jars are obviously better if you want to carry your potion with you, and larger jars are great if you have a lot to contribute tonight! It's all about the potency of your intention. Since you'll be combining ingredients, it'll be most practical to make your potion indoors; however, since you'll also be working with the energy of the Full Moon, be sure to check in with her before you start and again once you are finished. Since this is a No.9 potion, you'll want to include at least nine of the ingredients, but feel free to add more. This recipe will be an expression of your love, so go ahead and change add or subtract any of the ingredients below.
Suggested ingredients include:
A few drops of filtered water, for purity and intuition
Brown sugar, to make your creation sweet
Honey, to give it sticking power
Rose petals, to reflect the beauty of your love
Lavender, for calming presence and clarity
Rosemary, so you may remember who you truly are
Mint, to keep it fresh
Sage, for wisdom. Write your intentions on the leaves in red ink
Cinnamon, for heat and passion
Pink sea salt, for protection
Pink peppercorn, to give your intentions a kick
Currency, to remind you your love is valuable
A Crayon, to remind you that love is an act of creation
A Pink Candle, to seal in all that goodness
You may also want to include your favorite flower, a scent that you love, or a lock of your lover's hair. Remember, this creation is a reflection of your love thumbprint so include whatever resonates with you.
1) Setting The Scene: Before you can get to creating a love potion, it's important to get into a loving frame of mind. Begin with a gentle stretch and then settle yourself into a comfortable seat and take some conscious deep breaths. Begin to observe your breath. You can think of this exercise as if you were looking at your home's interior with fresh and curious eyes. You may be as familiar with your inhale and exhale as you are with the objects on your shelf, but go ahead and revisit your breath and how it connects you to your body and spirit. Feel as if the breath was giving you a guided tour. Imagine yourself seated in a comfortable place overlooking a beautiful valley. With the breath, go ahead and allow the word agape and the concept of love for creation to fill this beautiful space. With each inhale, take in the beauty of this vista, and with each exhale, feel into a sense of care and benevolence for all creation.
2) Feeling into Love Notice where in your body you are feeling the most resonant. What is the quality of this energy? Does it feel youthful and uplifting? Is it playful like a puppy? Is it strong? Stay in observation mode and permission whatever shows up to just be, as you follow the breath as your tour guide. That permission and observation can extend to the inner critic too. When we perform loving-kindness meditations, it's common for feelings of fear and judgment to show up. Just observe. If sitting in agape love kicks up a narrative that you are too much, not enough, or anything scary, offer those feelings and stories love, just as they are, remembering that feelings are always valid and not always true.
3) Concoct Your Potion Now that you are in the agape energy, let go of your meditation focus and assemble your ingredients. Light your candle and take a few deep breaths before placing each item into your jar. As you place each element in, state aloud your intention for what this ingredient means to your love. For example, "| add this cinnamon for passion and heat in my eros love" or, "I add this brown sugar for the sweetness in all of my friendships." Since you are capable of experiencing all six expressions of love at once, you can add elements for all six into your jar. No matter how many expressions you choose, and if you only choose one, begin with Philautia - love of self. As Ru Paul preaches, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?"
4) Seal In That Magic When you have all your elements inside your jar, place the lid on it and close it up. Drip the wax from your candle over the top to seal in all those juicy love vibes. Remember that this Full Moon/Valentine's Day ritual is supported by the Nine of Pentacles. She is grounded in support from divine love, and she knows that her self-expression is just that, an expression of the Divine. I am beaming love to all of you! xoxo Meredyth